Do I set myself up as a good sort?

Do I be a hero, if only to myself?  Do I feminise that and become a heroine?  Does that matter, these days?  Why can I accept ‘heroine’, for instance, and not ‘poetess’?

It’s use, I suppose, choice of words.  I like ‘blonde’ for females and ‘blond’ for males, but I have noticed that it seems more common, now, in the US anyway, to use ‘blond’ for both men and women.

Many would agree to give up ‘madame’; some drop the idea of ‘lady’ unless it is an actual title, preferring ‘woman’ – I, myself, watch that use of ‘girl’ for any female person above the age of majority.

(And that has reminded me – once, I was walking along one of those streets, and there was a group of young boys coming my way – what I would call ‘junior school age’ – I’m old enough to remember when schools were categorised in such a way – junior school coming after infant school and before senior school – how simple it was in those days – no ‘year this number’ and ‘year that number’ – some mathematical genius must have brought in that system – and – I wasn’t afraid of groups of young boys, and kept on walking – they were nudging each other – and then I heard what one was saying to another – “Kiss the nanna*!”  Nudge.  “Go on, kiss the nanna!”

And I wasn’t taking much notice.

And it wasn’t until much later, when I was home again, shopping achieved, that I realised that the ‘nanna’ referred to – was me.

knew how old I was, but I had no idea that it showed.  I thought I was youthful-looking for my age!)

But that’s an aside.  Maybe.

And, in the general consideration I was going through, before being usurped by my own memory – there is transgender and homosexual and bisexual and . . . what standard of description would suit all of those?  Don’t forget these are people, not just categories, and I’m sorry if I missed anyone out.

I do care about these things – and I did very strong courses (that’s one way to describe them) on feminism, as it was then – and then there was discussion on whether we should be talking about gender studies instead – of course, of course.

This wasn’t what I was going to write about, but this fell upon the page, and so – I have been so tired lately – I may as well leave it there, I think – and then there will be something rather than nothing.  Couch it round with general apologies – I’m feeling amiss in my mind – who knows who or what I may have forgotten?

What I was going to write was: do I only write the triumphs here?


*’nanna’ – a common term, where I live, for a grandmother.

4 thoughts on “Do I set myself up as a good sort?

    1. Yes, as I say, I did this ‘strong’ feminism course – I wasn’t even supposed to call it ‘feminism’, but ‘feminist theory’ – the issue came up there, and it’s stuck – I refer to ‘young women’ for those around about age 18 – but it does sound odd! Also – ‘lady’ – when you were with children, you always said, “Be careful and . . . don’t knock that lady,” for instance, and people in my tutor-group said how odd it sounded to say to a child – be careful of that woman – lacking in respect, somehow – but I heard it on the bus the other day – a mother saying to a child – “Be careful you don’t knock that woman!” Times changes, and language changes. Glad you are back! I’m sure everyone missed you.

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  1. Sometimes people here in Canada, which is very Americanized in its language use, will use the word ma’am (spelling?), as in thank you ma’am. I kind of don’t like it…there aren’t many madams, or ma’ams around here in North American lingo where everyone is called by their first name. (Why call some random woman ma’am and then when you see her at a sporting event/local festival/grocery store you’re called the your first name?)

    I don’t see why someone can’t simply say Thank You. Do you have to say ma’am? It makes me feel old (and I am, and am not, depending on who you ask. My kids think we’re old..but I’m not ‘retired’ old. Is retired old? See what I mean? ugh)

    I prefer ladies to girls but I can still accept girls too…but it depends on the conversation and who is saying it. Maybe it’s a local/geographical thing.


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